Author, Speaker, Professional Patient

I Am Deeply Sorry

Posted by on Mar 1, 2015 in Read Her Blog | 29 comments

Sadly, this apology won’t reach everyone it needs to, because I’m pretty sure I lost many blog followers yesterday. After I emailed out my last post, my husband asked if I knew what the title of my blog post meant. I won’t go into the full discussion, because it ends with me mortified at my choice to not have someone read through my words before I hit send. I honestly did not realize how offensive that saying was. So will you please, please, please forgive me for my edgy title?

I kind of have to let this go or I will stress over it all week. And if you’ve followed me for any length of time, you know worry is the sin that likes to entangle my thoughts. Ugh. Not fun. But confession is the freeing gift that God gloriously designed.

I guess this is the downside with blogging. The world sees my Β mess ups, and it’s greatly humiliating. So today I’ll be listening to “Your Grace Is Enough” all day, because that’s what I need. God’s grace. And your forgiveness.

I’m deeply sorry.

 

In His hands,

Dabney

29 Comments

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  1. Anonymous

    Sadly, sometimes embarrassment is the price of innocence. But I’m sure there are some more offended by lack of innocence or even by experience. I love that my daughter -in-law is so naive and childlike, and I just imagine God smiling and gently shaking His head as He reminisces, “She’s gonna get flack on that one”. I love you, daughter.

  2. Ginger

    I love your blogs and your story. Any of your followers know that your heart belongs to the Lord and a slip of the tongue is just a slip. Grace covers all and humility is of great value ( Prov 22:4 ” 4 The reward for humility and fear of the LORD is riches and honor and life.” ESV)
    Forgiven, covered by Jesus blood, and standing His righteousness, we move forward together.

  3. John Miller

    Dabney, regarding your apology and the previous blog title; it may have caught me for a moment, but I moved on. Realizing you are a person of character, I did not give it a second thought. You see; God also gave us the gift of maturity and forgiveness. Unfortunately, there are those who choose not to exercise those gifts. We live in a thin-skinned world and too quickly jump to conclusions and get “offended” over the most petty things. We need to get over ourselves and get under the wisdom and grace that God gave to all of us. Dabney, if you lose some bloggers, they were not meant to follow you quite yet. God needs to work in their hearts a bit more to bring them to a maturity where they can hear what you are so faithfully sharing. Thank you so much for being a loving and transparent servant of God. Never look back, but keep your eyes on Him. Take care my friend, and may you have a blessed day.

    • Karen Shorey

      I don’t know you personally but you have touched my life through your vulnerability in your book and blogs. I am so saddened that you feel guilt over an innocent phrase you clearly were not using in any negative way! Anyone who was offended didn’t take the time to read your blog. I chuckled when I saw it and it made me want to read your words!

      Rest in peace today knowing that your honesty touches more lives than any faux pas!

      Don’t apologize. Just continue to be you and make in impact for God in a very hopeless, dark world. And when your few critics complain, ask them if they actually took the time to read and hear your heart!

    • Dabney Hedegard

      This was so beautiful. Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom.

  4. Beth

    No worries. You are loved and cherished! And we all need the opportunity to give grace, because I can’t even begin to count the many times I need it extended to me. Do not stress about this- go on about your day knowing all is well!

  5. Kindra

    I always freak out when I see these apologies. I think what could she have possibly done? Your blog is your space. People follow it for your content. If they are simply offended by the fun and catchy titles then they don’t really read your blog. The joy of blogging is that your can share anything you want. Your post was as usual, uplifting and not the least bit offensive. I love your titles! I also know that you are not going to be posting something totally obscene. People need to grow up. God let you send that out because there was NOTHING wrong with it. I love your transparency in your posts. Keep doing what you do and you will gain more than you will ever lose. The people that leave are the ones missing out!
    Happy posting my friend! I’ll have to see if I can find a recipe! Xoxoxo

    • Dabney Hedegard

      I think I’m going to print this out and read it over and over again each time I start to doubt what I’m doing. Ugh. I am very human. Thanks for taking the time to comment. God knew I needed to hear your words. He so amazing that way. πŸ™‚

  6. Holly cheromcka

    I actually laughed when I read your title, and CERTAINLY didn’t think the content was going to be anything offensive or bad!! It did make me curious so I definitely wanted to know the “what” you were referring to… It was actually very clever when all was said and done. No worries – we know your heart!!

  7. denisedivulges

    Seriously? Perhaps those that were offended should take a good look at where their thoughts lie? I found nothing offensive about your blog post, and I didn’t assume anything about your title! YOU GO GIRL!

    • Peggy O'Brien McCall

      Oh Dabney – you did nothing wrong to be embarrassed about! Just because an expression could be taken wrong doesn’t mean it’s wrong to use it in and of itself! An inappropriate meaning never entered my mind, but even if it did, I would figure that *I* would be the one who needed to clean up my thoughts! You are a sweet blessing to your readers! πŸ™‚

  8. laurabennet

    Understood the meaning, but took it lightly, knowing that is not you as a person. I don’t know about others. But I do love your sensitive spirit that led you to apologize. I can picture your adorable face in mortification. I’m so sorry, and you are truly forgiven by this broken woman. I’m pretty sure God has you covered too πŸ™‚ Praying you can let it go, but I fully understand. I’d feel the same as you. Tomorrow will look better. Please don’t stop blogging. We need your testimony. I think this was the enemy’s attempt to silence you, shame you and send you packing. Please don’t give in! You are greatly loved.

    • Dabney Hedegard

      Laura, Your words are such a blessing to me! I’m praising God that you are in my life. He knows I need those encouraging friends. I pray God blesses you today!!!

  9. Tracy

    Dabney, I love your spirit and heart! I chuckled and while reading your blog the only thing going through my mind: I want your recipe, I dislike taking meals because I never know what to take, what recipe can I send her, and hot dog I will get new ones to try. Since we are empty nesters my hubby meat and potatoes but me mostly anything and freezer bags and reheating is great.

    I have Fibromyalgia and my emails can have gaps and make no sense from Fibro fog and so my friends end up mad at me. Well God knows and He goes before me and He has a sense of humor too! Keep up your amazing blog and don’t worry about the number of people who stay or leave we love your heart! I love you girl! From one mature old lady in Christ to a beautiful women in Christ!

    • Dabney Hedegard

      He does go before us, and I’m so thankful He has a sense of humor. One day in the future I will laugh at this– I’m just thankful today is better than yesterday. God bless you!!!!

  10. Kelly B

    Didn’t bother me one bit! I know your character and the bad meaning didn’t even cross my mind! Anyone who follows you knows your intent is never raunchy! Love you! Keep being you!

    • Dabney Hedegard

      Girl, I almost said something to you at church yesterday when you asked how I was, but I would have started crying right then and there! Thank you for being a friend and for loving me regardless of what silly mess ups I make. You do love me, right? tehe xoxoxo Love you.

  11. Barb Uhazie

    I read your post and Ididn’t notice the title, so it went right over my head! The recipe sounded great!

  12. Anonymous

    Are you talking about the title Bragging Rights? I’m not even sure if that is what you are referring to. In my mind, that is a fun term used by people who enjoy competition and enjoy making it fun by talking about winning bragging rights with those with whom they are competing. What’s wrong with that?? Maybe I am missing something and you deleted an offensive post. If not, no apology necessary. It’s all in good fun. People need to get a sense of humor and learn how to enjoy a good ole American competition. That’s in our fabric as Americans. At least that’s, as my dad used to say “my humble opinion” πŸ™‚ God bless you for encouraging others and for your story!

  13. Dabney Hedegard

    Sadly, I wrote something a little more scandalous than that, and I have modified my post title. πŸ™ I have learned a valuable lesson, that’s for sure. I will always have someone read my posts before I publish them. Geesh. No wonder the Bible talks about two being better than one. πŸ™‚ Thank you for your kind words!!!

  14. Robyn Barkley

    Dabney, love πŸ™‚
    I saw the post as I was heading to church, and because I know you, I knew it was not going to be scandalous…just as the others have written they knew the same. I also laughed and was intrigued by the title and wanted to know what you wanted to share…so really my first thought was, what would Dabney like to exchange with her readers today? Something out of the box is what I was thinking.
    I love you girlie! And I know everyone else that follows you feels the same way!
    Keep being you my love! You are AH-mazing!! πŸ™‚ God is doing a great thing in you my dear!
    XOXOXOXOXO

  15. Frances

    Awww…bless you !!! No offense taken and like some of the others it went right over my head….Thank you for your posts !!! I may not always comment but almost always read..

  16. Unshakable Hope

    Dabney, I KNEW the title was innocent because I know you. I sure would have loved to see your face when you found out what that means πŸ™‚

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